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Idea No. 1 – Connection before Education

by deb ~ September 7th, 2018. Filed under: News.

Connection before Education
Its important as a parent or teacher to go for connection first before any kind of education.  Whether we are sharing with our child a way of behaving that would more meet our needs or engaging in a classroom or course with students who are challenging.  It is important to go for connection first.

I have realised over the years that the worst time to educate my kids is when I am angry or upset. I have developed a way of disengaging when I am really wound up then self empathising or getting empathy support.  From that space I then can have a conversation that involves me doing all the listening and reflecting for understanding first.  The aim is to truely hear how it is for them and connect with their needs.  This also opens a lovely space for me to be heard.  Once connection is reached, then we can brainstorm ways forward together.  This creates a relationship based on trust, honesty, consideration and care.

Now that both kids are teenagers, this is making for a much easier time as they discover who they are and how they fit in the world.

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