A blog dedicated to NVC Lifestyle Design

& other cool stuff!



Embrace Reactivity by Robert Gonzales

Monday, April 3rd, 2017

I was gifted Robert Gonzales book, “Reflections on Living Compassion”, a few years back by Filipa Hope and like books often do it sat in my book shelf collecting dust.  I started reading this book about three weeks ago and all I can say is WOW.  I read over the same couple of pages for a […]

Great NVC interview with Tony Hawk check it out

Monday, September 5th, 2016

Here is a great interview where Tony Hawk talks about NVC.   Click here to listen to Tony Hawk interview. Click here to find out more about our next NVC Foundation Workshop.  

Reflective Values Based Communication

Thursday, August 4th, 2016

  Reflective Values Based Communication  Deb and I are now in our tenth year of facilitating practice groups and seventh year of running NVC Courses.  We have discovered over the 10 years of Learning NVC is that to get started in having more fairer, meaningful and connected conversations it does not take a lot of […]

Great Marshall Quote about Empathy

Friday, April 15th, 2016

Here is a great post about what Empathy is and isn’t.  I like this one because it says its not about psychology or diagnosis.  It is also not about fixing someone or making them feel better.  Its all about connecting to the energy and been present.  Thats all we have to do. Have a read […]

A wonderful parenting course in Hamilton

Friday, February 5th, 2016

Tutor: Isabel Crawforth and Andre Ngapo Starts Thursday 11 February Only $85 6.30 – 9.00 pm Click here to enroll  What if loving and parenting unconditionally could be a daily practice instead of just an ideal? Our NVP course enables us to stay connected with our children even when it’s really hard. By growing our […]

Five Steps of NVC Mediation – By Ike Lasater

Tuesday, January 19th, 2016

Here is a very simple yet effective description of NVC Mediation by Ike Lasater. We are offering a workshop based on Ike and John Kinyon’s work in May 2016. We invite you to check it out. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pso8RcuyDZY

Communicating Compassionately – NVC Foundation workshop with Deb & Wayne – Feb 20 & 21 2016 (at the moment not showing under Up and Coming Events

Tuesday, January 12th, 2016

Communicating Compassionately 20th & 21st Feb 2016 – Auckland

Five minute empathy hack – Getting connected

Friday, October 23rd, 2015

Self Empathy Hack from Wayne and Deb  Here is a five-minute Empathy hack that you can use in any situation to become more resourceful and discover a pathway forward that is empowering and grounding.  With the aim being making Empathy and Connection our default.

Carl Rogers Talk 1965. Awesome

Tuesday, July 28th, 2015

Here is a Talk given by Carl Rogers.  Its a great explanation of empathy.  If you are in a hurry if you listen from 16min to 25min you will here a clear explanation of what empathy is. Carl Rogers Lecture 1965

Dunco for Alice – A poem read out during our NVC couples retreat

Tuesday, June 16th, 2015

The below poem really captures the essence and beauty of our NVC Couples Retreat at Sharda last weekend.  Duncan wrote this for his Soul mate / other half / wife, Alice.  Thank you Duncan and Alice for being okay for us to share your wonderful words. Dunco For Alice I wouldn’t like to call you […]