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NVC Idea No. 2 – “NVC Starts with ME”

Friday, September 7th, 2018

“NVC Starts with ME” To us this is what NVC is most about.  Doing our own connective and inner work so we can be more compassionate and available to those around us.  We have discovered over the years in our own relationship how important it is to find our own empathy places and practices to […]

Idea No. 1 – Connection before Education

Friday, September 7th, 2018

Connection before Education Its important as a parent or teacher to go for connection first before any kind of education.  Whether we are sharing with our child a way of behaving that would more meet our needs or engaging in a classroom or course with students who are challenging.  It is important to go for […]

Emotional Competence – Gabor Mat’e

Wednesday, November 29th, 2017

Here is a great exert from Gabor Mat’e’s Book – When the Body Says No.  Its all about tuning into our bodies and listening to its wisdom.  Of course within this is connecting with our needs met or unmet and understanding that true healing happens in this place. First we must build our Emotional Competence.  […]

I dont SNAP I transform – Thom Bond

Wednesday, June 7th, 2017

Here is a great 2min 9sec talk by Thom Bond that explains the skill we teach very succinctly.  Check it out.

Some awesome Words Of Wisdom from Carl Rogers

Tuesday, April 18th, 2017

Empathy and Presence

Embrace Reactivity by Robert Gonzales

Monday, April 3rd, 2017

I was gifted Robert Gonzales book, “Reflections on Living Compassion”, a few years back by Filipa Hope and like books often do it sat in my book shelf collecting dust.  I started reading this book about three weeks ago and all I can say is WOW.  I read over the same couple of pages for a […]

Great NVC interview with Tony Hawk check it out

Monday, September 5th, 2016

Here is a great interview where Tony Hawk talks about NVC.   Click here to listen to Tony Hawk interview. Click here to find out more about our next NVC Foundation Workshop.  

Reflective Values Based Communication

Thursday, August 4th, 2016

  Reflective Values Based Communication  Deb and I are now in our tenth year of facilitating practice groups and seventh year of running NVC Courses.  We have discovered over the 10 years of Learning NVC is that to get started in having more fairer, meaningful and connected conversations it does not take a lot of […]

Great Marshall Quote about Empathy

Friday, April 15th, 2016

Here is a great post about what Empathy is and isn’t.  I like this one because it says its not about psychology or diagnosis.  It is also not about fixing someone or making them feel better.  Its all about connecting to the energy and been present.  Thats all we have to do. Have a read […]

A wonderful parenting course in Hamilton

Friday, February 5th, 2016

Tutor: Isabel Crawforth and Andre Ngapo Starts Thursday 11 February Only $85 6.30 – 9.00 pm Click here to enroll  What if loving and parenting unconditionally could be a daily practice instead of just an ideal? Our NVP course enables us to stay connected with our children even when it’s really hard. By growing our […]